When Couples Heal

When Couples Heal: Reflections on a Therapist’s Rewarding Day

Today reminded me why I do this work.

Two different couples, each of whom came to me when their marriages were hanging by a thread, sat across from me and shared something powerful: they now have the relationship they once only hoped for.

Neither journey was easy. At the start, both couples were in deep pain. Trust was frayed, communication had broken down, and both were quietly wondering if divorce was inevitable. Over months of hard work, they showed up week after week. We had sessions that were anything but comfortable. There were tears, tense silences, moments of frustration, and times when progress felt distant.

But they never quit. And neither did I.

We stayed curious. We kept trying again. They learned to pause, notice what was happening inside themselves, and respond to each other with steadiness instead of reactivity. Over time, those moments of calm built trust and brought them closer together.